But I don't want lemonade!

My plans for the day fell through.There is no one to blame for that but myself . Let me take that back.Blame is such a negative word. I am solely responsible for what did not come to be for the day. I completely own that responsibility.I am much more comfortable with owning the responsibility than with shouldering the blame.

I also cast aside any connection to I could have or I should have done this or that.Quite simply, if I was intent on a participating in a particular event some very specific plans were needed to ensure the outcome desired. Those plans were not made and certainly not followed up on, which inevitably left the door ajar for this particular outcome.

I know this sounds very cerebral and emotionally detached. The truth is ,that's the way I choose to view it. It is the reality, as cold and dispassionate as it may sound.

Am I disappointed? Sure I am. There is nothing I can gain by wallowing in that disappointment. Instead, I have taken out a mental index card and made notes on it that in the future,when faced with similar circumstances, there are action steps that I can put in to effect to mitigate the outcome increasing my chances for success.

My quote of the day today was: 

"The only time you fail is when you fall down and 
stay down."

I have no intention of staying down today. That's just not in my plans!

When the prevailing winds change, the only way to move on is to adjust my sails.

Sitting motionless waiting for the winds to change is an option,not necessarily a good one ,but an option none the less.One would hope that eventually those winds would pick up again and I could continue my Journey. Then again, they might not ,or they could change direction and take me completely off course. 

Maybe a more adventurous sole would be comfortable to leave their own fate completely to the direction where life chooses to take them.All too often I hear people say, that's where life has led me. Funny, I always seem to want to lead my life not have it lead me.

"When life gives you lemons....make lemonade!".

What if I don't want lemonade? In fact, I may not have any desire for lemons. Well then, I can just toss the lemons aside and go out and get whatever it is that I want. It's just that simple!

There are times, in fact most times, no,let me say it is just as important, to know what you don't want as it is to know what you do want.

Today,that includes making the most out of the day and putting aside any feelings of disappointment for the opportunity I missed.

And that includes not trying to put a round peg in square hole!

Shabbat Shalom