Negotiating

"Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love."

Lao Tzu

 Negotiating.

Some people thrive on it.

Some people feel it's a part of life.

Others think it's a way of life.

I for one hate it.

I really don't see a need for it.

When I go to the grocery store, it's a simple transaction.

A can of tuna costs $1.49.

I then make a choice....yes or no.

I would never consider taking it to register and negotiating a better price.

Similarly, the grocery store puts a price on each item.

I would never go to the register with the expectation that the clerk would say "so what will you give me for this?"

Wouldn't it be easier to go into a car dealer and say "I want to spend $299/month....what can you show me?".

Instead we end up negotiating..

Why?

It's a fairly simple transaction.

Today I am faced with having to do some more negotiating.

It's ridiculous.

No one wins.

Establish the deal, make it fair and equitable and then it becomes a simple yes or no.

Period.

Imagine if you're on an airplane. The flight attendant offers you a beverage.

Yes or no.

There is no negotiating.

To some people, it's a game.

I for one find it insulting, even demeaning.

My contractor says "it's how the wealthy accumulate so much money".

I don't accept that.

Maybe for some.

I for one believe that fairness and generosity can bring you wealth, financially as well as in quality of life.

Make the offer fair and equitable and the buyer will be back time and time again.

Negotiating is an emotional trigger for me.

Someone is trying to take advantage of me.

I don't like it.

Never have, never will.

"No one has ever become poor by giving."-Anne Frank

Shabbat Shalom!